In this time appart, I discovered yes I could live my life without him and I also got involved with another man. How would he be if you needed to be cared for? How much do you have to compromise yourself? But she is very obsessive over me. It would be better for all parties involved. I hope you have some friends or family close by to help you if you need emotional support. Confirmation from anyone that I need to tell him to back off and move on with my life? My initial intention, though premeditated, was not to engage in intercourse, but perhaps trade fantasies and pictures. But I hoped that I would see him again.
Then she ran into Charlie, and sparks flew like they never flew before. He said it was like opening a book and re reading it, decades later to find you still enjoyed it. If I decide to get with this new girl, I dump my job that I supposedly have now, get hired on at her company while I finish school, sell my car my only liability and pick up something cheap for the time being, and sign a promisary note to recompensate my gf for all the money she's paid on it so far. My one son was grown, and I had a grandchild, where he had three children still in the household. I often think about leaving my long term relationship and step outside of my comfort zone. He lives in another country and now I got back to my old life and partner. The hurt is from the lies, betrayal and disrespect.
So decide who you want to sleep with and who you wanna spend your best time with although many of the times both are the same. Eventually your children will see the truth in their father, but only if you step out of the way to give them the view. We had issues from very early on as I just knew in my heart that I was not in love with her but wanted to give my children a life with both parents and we definitely are the best two parents I know. Write down how you want to feel when you are together, and even how you want to feel when you are apart. Maybe I just feel scared because the relationship is different this is not bad, just different, unfamiliar — more freedom, more independence and less of boyfriend running around me and focusing on his obligations instead. We were great in the sack, loved to sleep late together, go out togather, take trips…you name it.
I love my husband and our family. She says she wants to let him down easy. Again, as I type this, I do believe this wholeheartedly, and I will try to heed this same advice myself. I am the wife of a man who cheated on me, we have 4 kids and another on the way. She just wanted to live life without the struggles we had.
I feel guilty and depressed all the time. I never felt so bad, as I feel like I like both my ex and guy nr 2 and I only started to have those feelings for my ex since I met him two weeks ago. After an argument or sad talk we always become friends again and understand each other better, even if it means we have to leave each other. I had gone from having him always around, to nothing at all with no time for myself and no explanations. I also love 2 men my husband of 22 years that I left to be with my married lover of 2 years. Trust me wives you are often only there because of money and guilt. I want to support my gf and take care of her like I've promised, not run with my tail between my legs like a coward.
He feels truly sorry and wants to make it right, although he feels very hurt about the things I have done while abroad. To know more about Cynthia, visit her website. I was talking to him about some of these things, like being more optimistic and not looking back but forward in life, but never in the sense that those things are killing our relationship. So let him down gently and move on. She is right I am a piece of shit because I should know better. I had been pining for my lover all these 20 years. And I think this is very true.
Most of us need to learn better tools to do this. I truly loved my first wife but made some terrible mistakes in the relationship of 10 years and we eventually got a divorce… I married again about 2 years after my first divorce to a much younger woman than myself and after about a year I think she became bored and the relationship imploded and vanished. He supported me mentally, physically, emotionally and financially if i needed it, without any questions asked, as I did for him… I was overweight when I first met him, he did not care, he accepted that. He's gone out with each one, but now is holding back from both to consider. You just do not understand what this is and because you are so societal conditioned by monogamy and because your partner will be also you lie and cheat to be with that other person. You seem to have been trained by 1 to be there for his needs and take responsibility for him by making his decisions for him. Those were the days of snail mail and expensive long distance phone calls.
It has caused me to put my entire life on hold for years at a time. I ended up meeting a man from another state and we have been talking for about 4 months. I started dating a nice guy right away that I really like but his job sometimes makes him leave town for short or long periods of time. He was speaking to me about those things and it got me thinking. I am sorry I tried to be as short as possible and not too confusing. We got talking, kissed and due to the amount that was drunk, I took her back to my mates house and we had sex.
Those are all my thoughts exactly! Some people underestimate the love teeagers assure to feel. I think God has already tested us once…why would he do it again? First understand what love is. I feel happier with the 2nd guy, and like I want to be with him but I am afraid of the future. I have known him for many years and we went from friends to lovers. I better just jump at this while I can. Though to be honest now I think I offer all. But when choosing between two seemingly super options, it helps to understand your own strengths to see how each candidate might enhance or diminish them.
Apparently most of you are not religious in anyway. This type of behavior makes a girl think all men are players and none can be trusted! Dude, you can never be torn between two girls , because as a guy you wanna sleep with any hot girl you know, but you get peace of mind , inner peace or any other such psychological , self made terms only with that one special girl. I have two children and he is down and out. We also shared similar values and views. I don;t know what I thought would happen. Having an affair and breaking up with my partner was the worst time of my life.