It was crazy to see how many cute girls swiped right to him but left to me. The only condition is behavioral — being an Asian guy who is liberated from a culture that may otherwise make him feel bad for approaching women and expressing himself fully. Looking like identical twins who weirdly wore the exact same clothes, we spent a few hours hitting on girls. In addition, girls are staring at you as you explore the country. I had just lost weight, ended a 6-year relationship with my white girlfriend, quit my job, and recently taken a strong interest in improving my life and luck with girls — to give some context.
Talking to strangers is normal. Since 95% of Western men go to Asia for no longer than 1-2 weeks, this type of cultural blindspot is very likely to warp their perception. Japan was just one place, right? These are girls who may be considered unattractive or undateable by local men, so they seek affection and romance with foreigners. Also, being an Asian guy, he has access to more girls because most girls in Asia are comfortable with Asian guys. Obviously his results will be very biased in favor of a Western friendly places and areas. That being said, telling me, a white guy, how people respond to me romantically when you yourself are not a white guy automatically makes your opinion have less weight than mine — this is obvious but often a forgotten point.
Now imagine when you go to the movies and watch films made from the other side of the globe that the characters are always flying around, saving the day, or otherwise looking really cool — and they all never wear a blue suit but instead wear a wild clothing with bright colors. The internet said it and now this guy is saying it. He goes on Tinder and asks girls he matches with where the best bars and clubs are. Another example of this would be kissing or hugging in public, which is considered taboo in Japan; even established couples may not do it. Talking slowly, removing words like determiners , and using non-verbal communication facial expression, pointing adds an entire level of challenges. And you can very easily tell if a guy has the former.
Language barriers, cultural barriers, shame barriers, weird taboos all hit us like a bag of bricks. A great example of this is foreigners who go to Bangkok, Thailand and stay at Khaosan Road. A great example of this is my friend Jake. As a young Asian woman, I am no stranger to feeling fetishized by white males. Jake can get hotter girls because the hottest girls in Asia virtually never date white guys, and the clubs and bars that worked for him are all hooker free. The third guy was a skinny guy with glasses.
In addition, the reason the clubs I liked had hookers was because hookers love going to clubs with Western men because most of them are naive horny tourists. . Many Western men walk around Asia in Mickey Mouse Mode, and they leave the country long before they realize all the girls who stared had virtually no genuine romantic interest in them. He goes to the club and the music is great and the girls are really nice. One example is a girl who matched every single one of my friends on Tinder and she was all talking to each of us with equal enthusiasm.
Any self-aware man who was once really bad with women knows that shaming women for their sexuality is a way to deal with the frustration of not being a part of it. These challenges can be common with Asian girls, and is a virtual certainty with native Asian girls. My girlfriend later told me she lied to her family and said her boyfriend was Korean. I also went to last summer, and it really opened my eyes to my Chinese heritage. Thinking the sun revolves around the earth is a very intuitive illusion that can only be exposed with a change in perspective.
A brilliant example of this blind spot is online dating in Vietnam. Jake was not the only one in my crew to do this with me. She had my photo framed in her room and called me her boyfriend. The types of girls who had a thing for Asian guys went to those clubs, which explained why I had a harder time. Mickey Mouse Mode is basically being a character who gets a lot of attention but none of it is romantic. She feared they would flip a table if they knew I was a white guy so she lied.
Some girls loved Jake and some girls hated jake. Communicating with another person who does not speak your language or speaks it poorly is a challenging task that even guys who are very good with girls will struggle with. One day we even wore the same clothes, even down to the same bag and GoPro, before going to our favorite spot to meet girls during the day — it was becoming quite the scientific experiment. Other examples include girls covering their faces after sex or kissing, admitting they really enjoy it but feel bad as if they committed a crime. One of the most enlightening learning experiences for me on this topic is being close friends with confident Asian men.