By saying this, I mean that in present times, families find a match who is at par with their child and can help him or her to grow by having similar qualifications such as in education, finances, and world view. Why trust them to pick partners for us, when they themselves make such horrible choices that we witness, all the time? In that case there was no requirement for love or romance. I would say my aunt definitely gets mode respect and freedom, but my mom is still satisfied and happy. You need to open your eyes and really get to understand both sides of the arguments. Second, partners in arranged marriages are more likely to have similar belief systems, family backgrounds, education, and finances. Perhaps there are only advantages.
Too many revelations after marriage: When you get married to a person you hardly knew, you get to know a lot many things about him or her after marriage which you may or may not like. Standing at this society, most of us opt for love marriage. Hence, this gives a bumper start to a relationship on equal footing and then things are built up from there. They find our perfect mate and get us married. I fell in love with a guy from another religion but after 2 years he left me saying his parents would never approve of our marriage.
If things move forward, both families will use their social circles to perform a background check to confirm whether or not the information is accurate and if the family indeed is a good one. Lord Krishna later explained that love is not about getting your true love but falling only in love with him or her. In a culture where choosing your own mate is frowned upon do you think divorce would be ok? I would like to inform you that the way things are done in some countries are different than ours. The art of arranging a marriage varies from family to family, but some of these things will apply to the Indians you work and live with. However, we have to remember that not all arranged marriage is forced. Arrange marriage is sort of a marital union where the boy and the girl are chosen mostly by the parents than each other.
However, in arranged marriages, the interference of parents becomes a major reason for discord between two people after marriage. They often view the opportunity to sow their own oats and experience the rush of first love as a fundamental rite of passage into adulthood. You get to Start from the Start Reasons why Arranged marriage is better than Love Marriage- Start from the Start One thing about arranged marriage is that you get to start from the starting point. The shehnaai, the elaborate jodas, the family photos, the first meets along with family, the initial shyness, the anticipation, the thousand questions- remind you of a wonderful festival, na? Many not on board with arranged marriage would cite missing the opportunity to fall in love as a major drawback. Dating Deprived Dating is taken out of the equation when you have an arranged marriage.
I have written more about this. This can cause problems between the married couple. There is so much stigma in the indian society even if we display signs of unhappiness in the marriage. So many love relationship fall out. For the greater good of family or yours, this point makes the point solid that arranged marriages work better than love marriages. Even people who pledge allegiance to the Islamic faith know that marrying an individual is possible only if they both like each other. Also I have realised that when you have decided on an arranged marriage as your future, there is so much less of a pressure on you.
Advantages of Arranged Marriages If we leave the west for a few days and transplant ourselves into any culture that promotes arranged marriages, we will, in time, realize the logic behind this practice and appreciate the reasons why they work. In India, marriage is about marriage of families and not two individuals. In the West, it is an individual decision. In public, a variety of devices from chaperones to burkhas maintain this separation. We cannot make generalizations and stipulations about arranged marriage when there are clearly reasons why they are a good idea; carrying on traditions, parents wanting to help their children etc. Some of them are married to people twice their age. Me and my husband both are civil lawyers.
And it works for generations my parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles. As a result, some individuals carry a burden virtually all their lives, if divorce is not an option. When the children are born and , finding adequate babysitters is a non-issue because the grandparents pitch in the care and nurturing of the children. In addition, in the West one chooses a partner to fulfill oneself, while in non-Western collectivist cultures, one's primary responsibility is to the group-to one's parents, kin group, ancestors, and others--all of whom have contributed to make one's current life possible and to whom one is obligated. Highly Compatible Reasons why Arranged marriage is better than Love Marriage- Highly Compatible Again, another benefit of parents being involved. They can tackle our problems their self easily. I wasnt forced by my parents, but I was going past a certain age and hadnt found someone myself.
Most of my observations are centered on urban, , and mostly in. My whole life my mother has been putting my father down and treated him very poorly. When we do not expect anything form a person, its always better. And I hope they are willing to listen to dear old dad give his opinion. Please read my first post on arranged marriages at KnowRealIndia. Marriage is an agreement and more about living peacefully with the concerned family. But in an arranged marriage, it is like exploring a whole new world.