They simply fear that if they behave in such a manner, then their men will think less of them, and some are even afraid that their men will mistakenly begin treating them differently outside the bedroom as well. Now my desire is higher than his at times! I don't think anyone's inferior to me. We have a similar story as yours. She may be uncomfortable with the idea, but she is already going through with it. It is clear, by your response, that I was not as clear as I had hoped. I am not quite sure why i like it but suffice to say that it is not all totally sexual as sometimes i like to be bound and gagged and just left for hours on end and then released with out any sexual play at all. I have done, read, said all I know, gone to personal counseling more than once, sought healing in a lot of areas.
Say bye to the popular notion that you have to be either dominant or submissive in bed. I think we might take this gear on a little get away sometime when there is more dedicated time for just play. Maybe when she is coming out of a shower so she feels clean and not self-conscious about odors or restroom needs? In fact, I have a hard time understanding why anyone would want to do this to anyone, let alone their favorite person in the world! My girlfriend enjoyed it when I stroked my penis while watching her be totally nude and masturbate and then groaned and my penis ejaculated quite a lot of semen on her breasts, but also on her abdomen, inner thighs, and her vulva. So that fantasy that you worry is a little too off the beaten path to bring up with your partner or friends? Marriage problems have a tendency to flow into every aspect of life. I want her to enjoy it as much as I do. Ask her what she wants before you tie her up, then while you have her tied ask her do you like this? But, I tell you, the evidence of these sessions is undeniable.
I don't even care about that tie you up in bed shit. My Team and I are sent to give certain people, groups or nations. Thank you for sharing and for the encouragement! I personally think being blindfolded and hands tied adds to the excitement. I know a bunch of books have been mentioned already and I am going to mention one more. Perhaps I will ask her if she would like to be tied. Submission and Domination Fantasies Are Not Mutually Exclusive Men and women who reported submission fantasies were also likely to have the corresponding domination fantasy—for example, they were just as likely to want to be tied up during sex as they were to want to tie their partner up.
I work part time when my husband is at work. I love sex but that desire is strictly in response to and reserved for my husband. One of the big things now is he has cost a lot of money and I mean a lot! Ever try to stay hydrated on the blood of your kills instead of water? We are nothing more than property to men which is so far from the truth. Sometimes this is not possible and my Team and I are capable upon levels that simply cannot be understood. I stopped kissing him and called it a night.
Has anyone encountered this female fantasy before? It could just be that you feel a desire to be taken care of and protected, and many people feel that being dominated in some way makes them feel just that: protected and taken care of. Now, I agree, there are many men who are only out to please themselves, but there are also many men myself included who adore their wives and seek their pleasure above their own. Topics a bit outside of the usual fare in Christian marriage blogs, where there are many questions, but not too many answers. Try, if you can, not to see them me; us as Those People. He is only hurting himself by holding into past hurt and not forgiving. It seems for many, bondage is a symbolic expression consciously or subconsciously of that lost state.
You might as well get used to it, and get over it, because Those People are all over the place. But it only works if she also enjoys the game. I'm more of a psychology student. I think my husband should read your blog! The thing that makes me a little different and that none of our friends know is that i like to be totally dominated by husband to the point of extreme bondage and gags etc. I've been with girls that wanted me to do such things, and I wasn't all that into it, or I was just trying to do whatever they enjoyed to fulfill their fantasy. I feel better knowing there are other Christians out there that feel the same as I do.
Perhaps maybe I need to work on myself more. It's usually a symptom of insecurity. One second, you're worrying that the new kinky thing you want to try is just too unusual to bring up, the next, you're having doubts that anyone would not fantasize about it because it's so damn hot. Why do people like getting tied up? So she has much responsibility. I exist upon another different level and my Reality is difficult to explain as very few people do what I do. That would take the experience to the next level, and she might really dig it. For those Jamaican men who still have hang-ups about it, if you intend to try it, just remember you are treading into uncharted territory, so get some decent lessons.
I wanted to know what my partners got out of it; what they enjoyed, why they enjoyed it. That means that I came to this marriage with six years of experience. Being physically tough or at least putting on a facade thereof used to be key to the survival of men in many societies. But I go out of my way to constantly reassure him and build him up. Sure things have gone wrong and rapists have used it as cover, but in a best case scenario, you are talking about two people with trust and understanding of the other's boundaries.
Having a conversation about which words one might like to hear used in the bedroom could go a long way in being non-offensive. Being like Eve We would love if we could just lie beside you naked like Eve in the garden of Eden, and get a peaceful night's rest at least two nights out of seven. And dont laugh at him if he suggests it - he is lowering his guard and will hate you for laughing - just say not for me - but then continue the conversation to what else you could both do. I hope that clarifies my thoughts. I will let him do virtually anything to me and this mostly involves being bound in certain ways. Just interested in the discussion. Shornee Carnegie is an adventurer who likes to give a comedic spin to intense issues.
God is an amazing God who can do above and beyond what we dream. Like I said before though, I know I still hold all the control. Hey: It keeps him busy and, no, current research does not support the old hypothesis that watching violent films increases the likelihood that the viewer will act out violently. We are equals in our marriage. I guess God wants us to learn a lot. I too feel the exact same way as your wife about bondage.