There can be a specific reason behind this, but every guy has his unique story as to why he is how he is. And sure, maybe this is an obvious reason as to why men love cuddling, we can't lie and say it is a reason we love it too. As a woman, I am of the opinion that women's need to cuddle after sex is a social construct. The result of these two things is that men have no outlet for physical affection unless they have a sexual partner. Anything else to her is unacceptable.
You just have to lie there and enjoy how the other person feels against you. Your body should be loose and not tense when you cuddle. However, other studies have shown that the more stale a relationship gets, the less kissing there is. So really, they have it a lot worse. Well first of all a woman raised me. The older women I date though really don't make a big deal of it.
They like the sense of peace they have during a good cuddle session. But depending on the relationship between you and the girl, I think there may sometimes be a reluctance to cuddle that stems from a not unreasonable fear on the part of the girl that cuddling will be interpreted as a overture to sex. From here things will either go one way or another. It is usually over so fast and that sucks! If she's squirming around its a major turn off or if she refuses to answer the guys annoying questions like sure im not hurting you? I agree that cuddling is something which can be just as satisfying and intimate as sex. I am very, very happy to be having more sexual pleasure and fun than her. After I finish I fall into a deep relaxing sleep so I understand.
If the women had an orgasam she would probably be sleepy too. Here are 15 reasons why guys really do love cuddling as much as we do if not more! This cuddling move is great for when you want to talk and makes maintaining eye contact easier. We just want to get our sleep on. I cried later on because I knew I the end that she saw this purely as a business, whereas I just wanted to 'connect' in an intimate way as if she was a real girlfriend. Weirdly enough, male touch has gotten less ok as homosexuality has become more recognized.
I have searched for this for so long. Women feel much more comfortable exchanging even the most basic forms of physical affection arm over shoulder, hugs, etc. But its so far never has been me to start it. That being said I like cuddling, for cuddling sake. I am female and don't like to cuddle rarely. We realized we had found happiness. Also, who said that women are Less sexual than men? Girls in general seem to find more comfort in cuddling than guys do and for much longer.
Asking a man to make every sexual experience a drawn-out, laborious affair with lots of fore- and afterplay is ridiculous. My only suggestion is for you two to start over but it might not work. I'm having a grandly glorious time doing sexual activities that she says are dirty, shameful, or sinful. I hate cuddling after I have an orgasm. When your boyfriend cuddles with you, it allows him to be himself and be vulnerable, and that's a pretty beautiful thing. Why does he fall asleep after sex? When we talked about it he was fine for 24 hrs, but then I think he decided he'd given me enough of a top up to last me a while! What's up with this difference? I need affection, reassurance and demonstrations of love.
Here's a man's view of connection: Antoine St. Men are usually bigger than us, stronger than us, and more capable of keeping us safe than we are of protecting them. My mother and grandmother loved to snuggle with me. I would not turn my bf away if he was feeling the cuddling of course, cus obviously it's in the moment. In my opinion: In the chemical context of Post-Sex, I feel if a man looses his Serotonin, Oxycontin levels too fast. He Feels Manly: Sometimes, when our self-esteem drops down and our ego is hurt, we look for refuge in someone and seek some way to get them back up.
Would you like someone all up on you after working out? You may lie on your stomachs and turn your heads to the side, or lay on your sides - whatever works best. In fact I almost never want to cuddle. We have sex almost every night. Women need the of post-coital connection while men need to separate from that connection. Here goes: For women, sex and intimacy tend to be intertwined in an obligatory way because women often feel unconsciously about having more sexual pleasure and fun than their mothers.
That could have forged the emotional attachment to her - you felt close to her, because you essentially created her and who she was in your mind. He can't deny that being in super close contact with the girl that he cares about the most aka you! He is probably just out of puberty. Friends with benefits rarely if ever works especially when one of you or both of you may or may not have more feelings than sex and friendship. My mom's a prude; she claimed to never even have masturbated. A while later I learned that this was a social expectation. Any man who discounts this practice is one of two things: Gay or dishonest.
But I don't get it and I disagree with this stereotype and belief. I love him but he can't actually show me in the way that I need to be shown, that he loves me too. It Leads To Sex: Okay, he might be looking forward to something more to happen. Don't get me wrong, I love cuddling, but sometimes it can be too much. If only I could find a woman in my area anyway. Because you might have to limit the amount of physical contact you have in order to avoid turning into a swamp monster. Nor does it require explanation; it is what it is; it works to further the human race.