It is disrespectful to you and any person he is fantasizing about. He also thinks I'm too good for him sometimes and probably can't see why I wouldn't cheat on him as well like the other girls have in the past. Some people spend a lot more time with their fantasies than others, and usually their fantasies are more elaborate. Maybe you want to share his awesomeness with more people. What Steve said in comment 3 5.
These are good questions to examine. You know the typical relationship hoops, coffee. For many more, the turn-on is just the thought of crossing a forbidden line. Many questions about sexual normalcy have to do with fantasies. I've admitted this to my husband, he's admitted the same to me, and our relationship is much better off for it.
It never was a problem, but then it became a problem when he started focusing on one woman in particular who had the same school schedule as him. However, one day you will be older and worried about your appearance. If you love your boyfriend, you will forget John even exists. Or do females take one another's choices into account when selecting a mate? People make pillow talk about all sorts of wild things they'll never actually do. I find it hot to watch a partner get off in front of me, precisely because it is such a private and personal act.
However, only until recently thinking about it, I've felt really bad and guilty to the point where I want to tell him, but I know this will hurt him and he will leave me. I have a few fantasies that are in regular rotation for this purpose, and often I do not think about my husband at all, even to imagine him with another woman, which is as I said something I do when we are together. Even if you're shy about sex toys, this is one of the most basic. I would say, in dealing with the specific situation you mentioned, a boundary needs to be set that he cannot say any name, but yours, or the sex is done for now. Some people's fantasies are mainly positive and others are negative. Even if they are in happy relationships and are sexually satisfied? I wouldn't ever cheat, even if it was somebody famous or more attractive or anything like that. His love and respect for you is more powerful than his sexual urges.
But he never stopped telling me way too much about the women he saw on the street, in class, etc etc. Your trust for him hasn't been broken, you're clouding your own natural fears on him. If one cannot be honest with one's partner about this universal tendency without them freaking out, then one needs to question the strength of the relationship. I fantasized about it long before it happened. How does it begin and where might it lead? I guess the only way I would see it is if he were doing it with someone else.
Or maybe you like sharing your lover and proving that your bond is strong enough to allow such fun. Our sex life is amazing as well, he You need to stop thinking like that. John has known my boyfriend for a very long time. But men rather give their attention somewhere else. Have you put a finger on how much your husbands past cheating has to do with this fantasy? Having said that, this is how it leads me to fantasize on other women, because I catch them in the action, of being pretty, and gentle or simply adorable and polite. I am married and have always been monogamous, and my husband had an affair early in our marriage. He even went as far as to break up with me after 2 years to express his discontent.
You should at least so thinking like that and stop feeding your mind. He knows how to get you interested in him. For all of the screaming feminists have done about sexism for the past 40 years in my experience women, as a group, can be pretty bad about making generalizations based on sex and they are opaque to the idea that they can be doing it. As I've gotten a little older I've looked for women who like to have sex, who really enjoy a fun and entertaining night. But along with that an intense fear came in your mind, that he would cheat on you again. He told me that I was beautiful and very sexual, but never sultry. There isn't the judgement involved or the risk involved when the relationship is about sex and all that has to offer.
Keep your mouth and opinions about how hot someone is to yourself or tell it to your friends. Sexual activity is for you and your spouse only. I think we are completely normal, it's just a fantasy! He is tall and athletic and totally hot. Imagining your the other guy in the scene is a no no though. I can tell you there is a tremendous amount of excitement to be had if you let yourself play a bit.