I just know that he knows the difference, and knows that it couldn't compare to what we have. Some men are into the idea of cuckolding and humiliation, in a masochistic way. My husband is an avid reader of your column and loves to bring up the idea that it is perfectly normal to have outside sexual relationships with other people as long as you stay committed to your spouse. I have not slept in our bed for the last two nights; I just can't, I am still so angry. He definitely won't be thinking of another woman if you do that. You have just taught your husband that being honest is bad.
It is an experience that can be amazing for both people. She will show up in a mid thigh dress, spaghetti straps, no bra and no panties. It's like a pressure relief valve on all of that testosterone. It doesn't have anything to do with your husband loving your or not, it is just the reality that the human 'animal' will always crave something new and different. I would love to hear from women that know for a fact that their husbands do or don't feel this way.
Be glad you have an honest man and remember it has nothing to do with love. Maybe you should do some play-acting… dress up and pretend to be someone else. I once asked my husband and a couple of guy friends about if they fantasied about other women and I got the consistent answer about the 3 second fantasy. The fact that he answered the way he did even says it's probably just a fantasy. When I see couples in couples , the couple often deals with issues. It's not the idea of him doing her that turns me on. I am sure there are others out there that have husbands who would say no to your question at least I would hope so.
Honesty has to be one of the most important things in a relationship, and while it is okay to express how you feel about what he said, be careful that you don't put him in a position where now he feels like he needs to lie in order to tell you what you want to hear. My husband has no comprehension of wanting to get a massage. After seven years together I will be honest, I sometimes see men that I am attracted to as well. My husband and I talk about this all the time, we have a very open communication because it had to be for me to trust him in his recovery--and it's just natural still for us to talk about it and check in with each other. I hope you can let go of your anger so the love between you can return.
Follow the steps below to have your comment or post approved. Is there a medical danger to deep-throating? I do think you overreacted by not sleeping in the same bed as your husband, and being so angry. You don't put pressure on your partner to only be attracted to you. My relationship with my husband has never been better. Healing my heart so I can feel yours. He may be married, technically and legally, but the sexual dimension of his marriage is over.
It's no different from the amount of men that would like to have a threesome with 2 females. The contrast of black skin against white is erotic. The more honest he is about his fantasies, the less likely he is to go behind your back. We had a loving openminded relationship and were best friends we would talk openly and I knew he thought about other women but he said he would never cheat on me. This fear is too big in your mind. But along with that an intense fear came in your mind, that he would cheat on you again.
How did you react when you first found out he cheated and how did you guys work through it? Knowing my parents were having problems and not talking through them. I know my husband would like to have sex with other women, but he doesn't of course! But, I know with 1000% certainty that my husband will never sleep with anyone but me. I feel that it is more of a self-esteem issue for a lot of men. Are you over-reacting, maybe, maybe not but at least your husband answered you honestly. Get selfish, do what comes natural, and let yourself go. I grew up watching my mom sleep on the couch most nights.
However I do think this is a big deal. He is right, most men husbands or not think this way. Ok so last night me and my fiance was having sex and for some reason athe names of my two resent exes came in my mind then I made them leave because I dont like thinking of any women besides my fiance. My friend asked me what I want in a man when I get married and I said that I do not want a man who wants other women. Everyone has fantasies, I believe that is all he was saying.