And you may be stuck with a good boyfriend who has different expectations from a relationship, or he may just be a bad boyfriend. So here you find yourself again, lying in bed, with your heart starting to race and pound in your chest with another one of those mini panic attacks. Bcs thats what im feeling right now. The only issue arises is that these emotions tend to be of the negative variety. You know that saying keep your friends close and enemies closer? He has become a problem child at his moms he does what he wants and gets a way with it. One thing most women, who are bouncing off a recent breakup, badly need is time to clear their own thoughts and get more in touch with their feelings. Upvote what you want to see, downvote what you want to hide.
. I should be the one hating him, and recently when he was messaging me he said not only did I love you I was attached to you but you made me hate you and then a few days later you act like I loved you or want you back nobody wants you you are worthless like what the hell is his problem, and he says I'm ruining his relashinship with his girlfriend. And the more you try to help them become a better person, the more mean and annoying they get. My husband of 20 yrs had an x that sounded like you. I feel like he is mad at himself for doing that to me and now is trying to justify it.
I am really tired of dealing with the situation because I don't know what to do that will change it. Maybe maybe not, no one can predict what will happen, the sad thing is those 1st who do not know how to move on and think that they have some magical bond that cannot be broken. He knows I want to fix things but when he left a week ago he told me he no longer wanted a relationship and I took it as heat of the moment and tried not to read too much into it but I fear this is set in stone. I'm not codependent on people, infact right now the number thing I want is to be alone. Is there anything that I can do to stop thinking about her and move on with my life and be happy again? I resent her for not being a mother to her daughter. She lied and had me arrested for family violence but i got it dismissed. I think about this constantly but just want to be able to move on.
You need to get through it and try to understand why you stayed with someone who showed such little regard for you. But her insensitive boyfriend kind of freaked. While I can sympathize with your situation, your story and mostly your subsequent comments indicate you're a weak individual who's just diverting to excuses of major boyfriend sabotage what is this Mean Girls? Please look into their eyes and remember everytime you want to be vindicitive towards their father for no longer embracing a marriage to you, that they don't deserve to have adult issues through into their lap and tormented with adults fighting. You seem drama prone even now what with the staying in a bad relationship while hoping to hurt the guy by posting on reddit. Thats what I'm battling, the stay or Go feeling, constantly fed up with this nonsense! Funny that you mention moving on, but you came here to basically tell us that either you haven't moved on from your first marriage or you believe that no one should ever move on from their first marriage. I think what started this was because about a week ago he told me he loved me and I got really mad because I know he didn't mean it and I told him that and then he started hating me. However, just a month after ni contact with my ex-fiancee, i foubd myself missing him so much that I broke up with my then boyfriend that time.
To me it is her last ditch effort to have him be that man in her life. I tried casually spending time with other guys, but it inevitably dissipated due to the lack of real chemistry. I know this is bad to say but I wish she and the brats would disappear off the face of the earth. My ex husband and the father of my son left me in 2010, mostly because I became ill with generalised anxiety disorder. I told my husband this can really affect our marriage whether he believe it our not. That's when I entered the picture. I dated someone like your husband once and the signs were all there, he didn't come from a good family and his ideas and values I ignored.
In fact, you had used a little jealousy on him before to arouse him. They were married for one year and did so much damage to him that now he's scared to get married again. Betrayal is a bitter pill to swallow but the only way to move on is to release people. That is what marriage is all about. I agree that eventually that is the ultimate goal; but taking 5-10 years can be healthy too.
As such there is a disclaimer I feel I must add to this point. Confess and move on, the ball will be in his court. The time I begged and pleaded him to come back he started to be stubborn. From two months now we started fighting a lot, he is that very stubborn guy and I am too, but sometimes he will be very selfish as well. We broke up a year ago because of my family not liking her and since then we tried to work on our relationship and tried to get back together.
That is when he unleashed all of his anger and vile, hateful accusations. Understandably, they were overstressed, overburdened and they were fighting a ton. Love arises from the many things you do well together as a couple. You cant cut ties with the asshole. These bitches who use kids as a means to ruin and manipulate peoples lives need to find some other loser who wants them and their 4 kids by 2 or 3 different guys and let you and your husband have a chance at a 'normal' existence. I'm the one always fighting back.
If you open up and learn to accept and cherish your partner, your relationship may unfold in ways you never thought possible. A decent person swallows their harsh feelings about their ex and his new woman and is supportive of the transition that their children are going through for their children's sake. He acts like an addict and he is going a bit far with his comments on women he doesnt know. So, I am able to go back to my exhusband and have sex with him whenever I want to because we have children together? So you have no issues in being a homewrecker. Cuz I know that my girls are no always innocent angels and being with my ex husband isn't a cake walk either.