Later in our marriage she became her parents and started blaming me for all of her problems. Why can we not face that we yes do love them however no they do not truly love us and respect us s why is it so hard to leave them? During that time, I made a lot of lousy decisions that had repercussions not only for me, but for my parents and sisters as well. Never taking responsibility for anything and I am losing my mind. If anyone has any advise or has been in similar situations, please help. Do you immediately start casting about in your mind to identify someone to blame for the problem? I really feel lost Iam 51 he is 50.
Im his first serious girlfriend, and he is not my first relationship and I feel that weighs a heavy factor here. I find myself questioning my own sanity every day. As long as I am a good little girl and kiss butt all is good. I hope our friends will save themselves and get themselves out of their difficult situations. Kellydog, your comment made me cry.
I feel like I'm fighting a losing battle; no matter what, he will continue to blame me. We can be fighting and go to my moms and he acts like all is good tells people he treats me like gold and it is very angering. He gets secretive and gets mad if i even mention about it. Thank you for the information provided. They don't notice it appreciate anything we do. That we are constantly going along with a charade? But he interrupts me all the time.
Dear Sabour, First, I send you my deepest support in this really hard situation. I keep tellong myself to leave but cant open the door and do it. I just had court yesterday, we divorced late 2012, but he just filed a motion to modify child support we share 3 children , as well as parental rights and a few other things, he filed this motion in February shortly after meeting his now fiance, and was just mediated yesterday. Oringally we had a plan to give the baby up for adoption, but then he changed his mind when I was 7months pregnant he decided to keep the baby. Do not have any background noise. Like I said it is a very dangerous thing because we will tend to stay in unhealthy relationships because we believe it's our fault and no one else could love us or be friends with us because of how we have been conditioned to think.
I left on my own, although almost in a panic. Omg I thought I was the only one married to this kind of monster. I cannot do with the judgmental attitudes, I never took the decision lightly, it took me 25 years and her running my 10 year old son down, blaming him for her issues that was the straw which broke the camels back, and if I am being honest I have grieved for the mother I wish I had, so in effect she is dead to me. See the opportunity, not just the problem Restoring Love with Difficult Spouses coaching package You are not stuck between two choices—whether to put up with the blaming or end the relationship. He can also be very hot and cold in his relationships in that one moment everything is fine and then the next he's intensely angry at you. Hi Angela, Firstly Im so sorry this is happening to you.
Being either all loving or overly submissive will get you disrespect; while being too tough will create distance. These are his words in my head. We will not only identify with it, but I am sure there are alot of men who need to hear the message. I feel i cant say anything at all cuz im afraid i might say something to make him mad and hang uo on me and i end up hurt sitting here crying. Calling someone an idiot or telling them they always do everything wrong! Trying to be rational with him doesn't work. He then continuously provoked me to hit him over and over and over again. Please visit the page for more information.
I receive no support from my wife. As of two days ago he has finally stopped texting me. I do believe that everyone has to take responsibility for thier own feelings, decisions and issues. I just cannot measure up to what he wants me to be, and everything I do is wrong. I held out for so long but then got sucked back in.
I had to get out of there after she slapped, punched me, and choked me. You know personally what it was like to have a controlling father, and the impact that such negativity and fear has on a child growing in that garden. However some of us might want to do other things, even if we have a great interest in say, physics. I feel sad about this but just so relieved to get out and find my freedom again after so long. . It got to be ridiculous and he started to make me feel terrible about myself.