He told me nothing happen and they even went out together after the naked incident. I was then having a gut feeling he was up to something…found out he had been seeing his ex wife and she kept saying come back, its better here than there. Is he really doing anything wrong? If he's missing their vacations and traditions, he's probably missing her, right? Both are valid viewpoints and the fact of the matter is those two valid viewpoints are not meshing in this relationship. But my husband comes first before my ex. Why would he delete the convo now? They still own property together, which I understand having to deal with each other over until it is sold, however, the bank account and the car I do not understand. I want to discuss with you the theory of cause and effect.
At one point, I asked him to stop talking about other girls so much and he had kindly followed my request. And this is not about your lack of experience. I know she still loves him; am I being paranoid? I am hoping you can also give me clarity in my situation. So you want certain things he does and says to mean that he returns those feelings. Young ladies with healthy self esteem would leave. I guess I should mention that they were together for five years and had only been broken up for a few months before we started dating. Or, you can adjust your expectations or realize that facts are facts and after 8 months it is not worth feeling like this, he is either not over his ex or is interested in having her continue to be a large part of his life and you are not cool with this.
There are times where people break up and then become great friends afterwards. In response she gave him advice on how to be nice to me and she asked him about advice on a guy she met. I have to tell you this and I hope you listen: you're wasting your time. Texting and talking on the phone every single day is not. The talk makes you feel confused, insecure and jealous. He also informed me that he still loves me, and I sincerely feel the same. For example: When does he bring up his past? It wasn't until i found the messages and got upset that he asked her to stop.
He started with her a few weeks after he left. He said he doesnt know what to expect but he feels like it needs to be done whether its closure or they want to try to make it work. He says he doesn't need to as we know what we have and he wants to make her feel better about herself but it feels more like he doesn't want to push her away. I have been on the receiving end of the all of the above for the past 9 months. I will definitely be passing this on to those in need, I just wanted to say thank you so much for writing this.
He spoke almost non-stop while I politely listened. Her sink clogs, he runs over with Drano. If you try to forbid him from talking to his ex, whether it is justified or you are just acting out of insecurity, you are fighting a losing battle. You could just be filling the void temporarily until he's well again. My boyfriend of 8 months is still friends with his ex, whom he was with for five years.
I just always found that strange. Not only is that tacky and inappropriate, but it also makes us wonder what you'll be saying about us after our relationship ends. If he stayed very close with her family, it is due to some effort on his part. I found it by searching for information about why my partner would still be contacting his ex. Initiate a conversation about it if he visits her pages more than once a week. I can tell you that when I was on the receiving end of this sort of thing, I was not graceful about it. Remember, the absence of love is not hate.
He obviously broke up with you because he wants to date other people. And cutting back to a few times a week would also have been a big change. Nothing to do with the post at hand. I confronted him and told him I looked at his phone and he said she hit him up but he didn't respond and when I asked why he deleted the messages then he said cause he didn't want to deal with me and knew I would look at his phone. Worrying about what they could do just throws away any chance for enjoying your own life. Did they break up because of you? Am I overreacting in being upset. And does other things that make you want to use the obnoxious LuckyGirl hashtag.
This is particularly bad if the conversations are one sided. At first he said they would only talk once in a while, but after the first day they have been talking two to three times a week. He finds your lack of trust in him endearing. Then she responded again and he didn't respond. Well after that things got very uncomfortable between me and him because I found out that she was still texting him and he was not stopping it knowing that she still had feelings for him and wanted to rekindle the relationship. You're getting all the good stuff. I have listened and sympathized.
So in a span of 5 months from the first one I eneded up again pregnant, the 2nd confirming it was infact his shocked in disbelieve I could get into this situation when I was fighting with him and refusing him till he went to the doctors. This is where my issues starts, he told me about his ex that after two years cheated on him whilst drunk and got a kid with another man. Meaning her and him and their kids. My guy always runs to his ex whenever she needs help. Tommy is kind and compassionate and he is not even saying it is another persons issues,not his. Also he doesn't defend me when she criticises me which hurts.