Why is it easier to buy sweet talk than hard evidence? And he ignores me and brings it with him anyways. He tells me he loves my boobs and sometimes he'll make comments about how amazing and big my boobs are when it's obvious that my boobs aren't big. One night at the movies someone had left a tin of chew in the cup holder and he threw it aside all disgusted. This is not a phone addiction this is a porn addiction. If it is no porn ever, then so be it. After a while it all caught up to him so bad that there was no more hiding it.
I am not saying that you are doing any of this but its just a thought since I know that we women tend to be a little tight on the rains at times. What you are experiencing is pretty common. I assumed and checked with him on occassion to make sure we could afford it and he made everthing sound like we were on easy street. It killed my self esteem and made me wonder what was wrong with me, made me wonder if he wasn't attracted to me anymore. I no longer give him a hard time and he is much more forthcoming with his answers. Its now in default because he never made a payment on it. If he is doing this then you have some major worries.
My boyfriend is a boob guy for sure. This will show you are uncomfortable and unhappy with his behavior and that you expect it will not happen again. If it is often, speak to him about maybe talking to a therapist. This way, when you confront him, you can explain why you think he is lying and be honest and open about your feelings. Do you have difficulty trusting your boyfriend? I have met some people in my life who have been habitual liars.
It's not just plain and simply the anticipated reaction from the person being spoken to, and I want to expand on that because maybe it may help to further understand the dynamics of what happens. If he is your boyfriend then he won't say yes they are small. Here is one viewpoint from a woman and here is an opinion from a man on why they do this. If you want to fight every battle you will lose and be miserable forever. I recently saw her and she was in a wheelchair.
Kind of insensitive for him to ask you to actually make one for him! Does he treat you with respect and kindness other than this incident? It would include elements like this: 1 agree that this pattern is really not working at all and that you each commit to change it; 2 spend some time with each other getting to the root of it… you present a basic understanding, but it is important to go further… like where does his fear of anger come from in his past… and you need to also look at and admit to him whatever your part of the dance is; 3 develop a specific vision for what each of your own personal growth would look like, were you each to break through your own part of this pattern, and share that ideal picture with each other; 4 make agreements for how to change the pattern, in terms of specific behaviors. It sounds like what he did was innocent enough but he knew you would have a fit if he told you the whole truth. It just does not come to any good end to spy on someone. Don't assume he isn't being truthful with his general point which is that he likes your boobs. My boyfriend fiance now hides his addiction. I am suppose to be married in 12 days.
It's fair to say that porn addiction has caused many failed relationships. If these lies are small, stuff that wouldnt hurt you then maybe you should look at yourself and find out why he lies. You don't say how he is otherwise. This has given me hope that maybe he does still love me and is willing to do anything to make this relationship work. If he really is trying to make you feel good about your breasts then he is genuine : At the time, bigger the better. Consider how the lies are affecting your relationship.
Keep in mind the three reasons individuals lie. When you get mad, it only reinforces his tendencies to try to avoid it again. To try to make me feel better about something that obviously isn't the truth? Before knowing that I asked him What did you do today and he told me he only hanged out with his friends. You know dang well they're lying, boo! He may have had pictures for a long time and maybe he looks at them. Protect your heart and leave him to his fate.
The thing is he recently hang out after school with some guy friends and some girls from college, but I didn't knew that from him, i found out over facebook. Eventually I found on his phone where he had been back in contact with the last woman he left me for and i sat him down and confronted him about it and he said they were going to still be friends and I just had to get over it. He says he believes we shouldnt have sex until we are married it goes behind my back and lies about getting off to other women. And it doesn't mean they aren't attracted to or love their partners. Have those kinds of direct conversations with him rather than continue accusing and looking for evidence. If you catch him in a lie or notice telltale signs he is lying when he is speaking to you, think about what you were talking about together that triggered the lie or motivated him to lie. I confront him and he says that he didn't want to disappoint me that he spent the money on the round of golf.