Please help me with some answers because I am confused by his words and his actions. One of the more obvious is that he stays in touch with you. Its a coping mechanism for him because he is too emotionally immature to deal with his mistake in any other way. Not even remotely close to this. Well, it could be a number of things. Perhaps men are not wrapped up in as much complexity as women, but since your husband is a a man, you are already at a disadvantage. After me opening to him he stopped talking to me.
I have cared for him, but who wouldn't if you loved someone. Guys with no feelings for their exes cut ties and move on. It was at the end when my love feelings really deepened that he bolted. Please ignore him and don't even say Hi. Here are the most common reasons your husband's ex-wife might not think too fondly of you: 1.
In a way, his wife is looking for an adverse reaction from him and when she gets it, a fight ensues and the ugly, hateful talk between them takes root. Does he feel the need to keep rehashing the reasons for your breakup? After that things were great and we had our normal convos and talked about everything and anything from politics to the kids to the future etc. I am not saying it is morally right but I figure if I opened up and told you a little about my experience it might make a few light bulbs go off for your situation. I told him I needed to know if I should move on and leave out of state with my family. But from his story, something emerges. Of course being dumped always hurts though. He wants another girlfriend, one that matches, i should fuck off.
Honestly - human emotions aren't that one-note. There are always ways to address the situation. I often find that modern culture and the media tend to view dumpers as remorseless, self-centred absolutists without a conscience, when in reality it can take a lot of strength and love to do the right thing. Your husband might say its all over and he wants nothing to do with you. Of course, this is not an all exclusive club.
A silent, indifferent ex may suffer equally to a vocal one. However, I figured if you understood the process that goes through a mans mind it could make a few light bulbs go off on why your ex may not be completely honest with you about stuff. I'm able to fully accept the end of the relationship, my part in the end, his part in the end, etc. The bottom line is if you really feel you are the recipient of any kind of hateful language or behavior, then remove yourself from the environment. As Robert Anton-Wilson wrote in his book, Prometheus Rising. I believe that even as well as you think you know your husband, there will always cases in which how he behaves and processes certain things will be a mystery to you. I explained that he and his wife had fallen into a routine in which she instigates a conflict by frequently complaining about his behavior and making ugly and hateful statements.
I was not the one to call or text. . He sometimes acts like he despises me. Especially since I got a new boyfriend - he won't even talk to him really now. There are always alternatives and the future is full of many positive potential outcomes, even if the immediate environment you find yourself in is littered with sadness.
He has specifically told me that we are never going to get back together to later say that there might be a chance for it to happen. He might just be a good person, but he might also be subtly trying to make up for the breakup. Something clearly was eating away at their relationship and it seemed his wife was clearly upset or resentful about some things. Of course, there are other times where I really want to hear from someone but instead I hear from you and at the moment I am not in the mood to talk to you because I want to talk to this other person. I am going to give you tips based on my experience coaching other women who are in a similar situation; when communication has completely broken down with your ex boyfriend! An emotionally weak man will explode with anger and feel betrayed by her for being so insensitive and disrespectful towards him, whereas a wiser, more emotionally strong man will simply laugh at her and her attempts to piss him off.
So, if you want your wife to feel happy in her natural feminine state, you need take on the role of being the dominant, masculine one in your marriage. She sees her ex-husband being a different better man with you. I came to pick up my stuff I had specifically told my ex to stay away but he came anyway and he moped and cried while I was getting my stuff but I was over it. SeventeenDayze said: Lammastide said: I think we throw around the L word a bit too freely these days. It is possible to change the way that your ex feels about you. I don't even want to get back together with him- I still miss what we had and I know I will always care for him to some degree, but I also know that I could never trust him again.
Where are your self preservation instincts? The two of you are broken up remember? It is possible that your ex is not over caring for you. If you have mutual friends, sometimes his people will drop hints that he misses you, he is probably not subtle about how he still has feelings for you. So, I guess the question you need to ask yourself is how can you tell if your ex boyfriend is a jerk that likes seeing you in pain? Within days these men, who claim they love us, turn into cold, heartless men that we dont even recognise. One of the things that I am most proud of about myself is the fact that I am loyal to a fault. When i went to his place to pack up my stuff, he cried so hard.