A nice guy is treating you in a way you're not familiar with and that feels uncomfortable. Jeez, it's not all creepy ulterior motives. You don't want to be loved for who you're not, so teach him to loathe you for who you are! They learn firsthand that bad guys are bad for them. She is making the decision to let the guy treat her like that and you should pity her and not feel sorry for her and help her, they need to help themselves and do what ever it is that is going to build their confidence and help them see that they are worth more than how that guy is treating them, they are big girls now responsible for their own decisions. Just admit it that you like assholes because of their pseudo confidence and move on. These women even often ended up married to narcissists. I would argue, however, that nice guy bashing isn't productive either, except perhaps to vent one's own frustrations.
So i've gone on some dates with the so called nice guys, because i gave them a chance and guess what? But before syphilis ate his brains, he more famously said, Of all evil I deem you capable: Therefore I want good from you. The nice guy has been hurt, too, he just chose to stay nice. The nice guy also chose not to let any of it change who he was. Sure, we all lie to ourselves a bit to embrace the best in our partners: You imagine that your boyfriend is a great guy when he's not drinking, Romeo had to pretend that Juliet had hit puberty and my girlfriend doesn't ask questions about all those scratch marks on the inner door of the shed. Personal development doesn't mean having to become an asshole with women or start negging or manipulating them to get them to notice you. This is exactly what the nice guy wants to avoid, but he is too scared to even make more strategic moves. Back then, high school rewarded jerkiness.
You, on the other hand, can be true. This doesn't mean that a man shouldn't allow for a little mystery in the early stages of dating, by, say, not calling or being in touch constantly. You are creating space between you and the prize. They try too hard, and they don't present a challenge. You know, the players, the jerks, the ones who have hearts made of stone. Nice Does Not Equal Good A great number of nice guys are -- to use the polite term -- hollow-balled shitbirds.
They never seem to stand up for themselves; instead, they do the passive aggressive things and stay nice so as not to rock the boat or upset anyone. He forgot your wants and focused on everything you needed. I remember back when I used to think that women wanted a guy to treat them well I was rejected by a girl who chose some other guy over me. He'll soon realize most people talk great game but do very little to help others, and many are awful bastards in private again: Democrats. I stopped hanging out with him. There's just something so satisfying about taking the jerk home from the bar who's spent most of the night intellectually challenging you in a heated verbal debate.
If the answer is no, what could you do to make your life better and therefore become more attractive? The word nice originally meant foolish or senseless. But jerks often lack what it takes to sustain that. In fact, adversity is a catalyst to greatness. The asshole is not afraid to tell her that he will see her when he sees her, he knows how to behave like a challenge and keep the girl wondering. In these cases, wouldn't it just be nobody's fault? So there are issues that a girl who gets with a guy like this has that tells her she doesn't deserve a good guy that is going to treat her right. But that kind of romanticism has to be earned, or it's untrustworthy.
You want to tame a beast because it makes you feel strong, makes you feel good about yourself. The one's who don't be nice to women in order to get into their panties and the nice guys who may struggle with women and dating in general but never feel the need to rant about how women like bad boys and not nice guys and how they deserve to have women because they are nice. So, girls like to get involved. Your grandma is Gloria Steinem. She was describing herself as a woman just polite enough to wait for her moment - and no nicer. To thank you for your thoughtfulness, I'm pulling back the curtain to reveal five secrets you always suspected about those male friends you would take home to ma, but never home from the bar: the nice guys. Those guys who she thinks are nice though? Stop bending over backwards to take all these girls places in hopes of impressing them with your cool truck and gadgets.
Here is a best answer you can get, I cant say it as answer but a familiar topic about girls and nice guys. I agree its not her fault when things dont work out. Your job is to be better — and attract a better version of the same nice women. More likely it's the gals you want don't like you and to deflect and depersonalize this rejection rather than see it as 'they don't want me' you view 'they don't want insert guy type '. Worse still, nice guys think their good intentions make up for their pathetic failure to deliver. I have a feeling he told a friend about us and they convinced him to treat me like shit, my exes friends do get jealous of my relationship with them and usually ruin us, men also need to grow a pair and stop letting their friends juggle them, your male friends are not your girlfriends. Also, you specifically are the pig snout of dames.
So, he let you walk away and he called it a day. For a girl, seeing a guy let people walk all over him is a huge turn off. So I need it explained to me like a 4 year old. No need to be stiff and try your best to make your moves perfectly synchronized. Actually most guys aren't like that, but they just go unnoticed. But it does mean being thoughtful, listening well, and the like, when you do spend time together.
And other cliché remarks about girls only liking jerks. Of course, there's always the argument that women who like jerks don't respect themselves. And to the men out there: If you're looking for a healthy, connected relationship, why would you want to be with a woman who doesn't demand that men treat her well? You want to turn a bad boy into a nice guy. But believe me, in the weeks that follow, he'll wander zombielike through the most vicious neighborhoods at dim hours, seeking his own destruction. If you are truly happy you would not worry at all about meeting a partner. We want to end up with partners or husbands who are nice to us. Show him this video to help him figure out why girls don't exactly go for the nice guys! Are you out there living and making the best out of your situation? They want to impress you as much as you awe them.
So when a man looks at his guy friends who don't treat women well yet do surprisingly well with them, I'd want to know more about those women and how they feel about themselves. Why do you think this happens? Offence can be un- intentional. This can be a difficult thing to admit as a strong, independent female, but it is, nonetheless, true. He was happier in the safe, lonely position than he ever would have been risking rejection for something real. So right there: core concept. Girls would find half the stuff seen in movies as stalkerish and just plain creepy. And who they imagine you to be is who they wish they could be.