Try to be open to the way your parents feel about the situation and the reasons they have. Once you acknowledge why a parent is being mean, it is much easier to calm them back down and make them happy again. But you did mention that the outside world doesn't even know if you're alive, so I assuming that they wouldn't care. Either they don't trust you enough or have no intention of keeping you in their lives. I am trying to do the work that is needed to encourage some healing, but I know that it is going to take some ti,me and I am always afraid that my kids are one day just going to give up on me. Using your body language to let them know you are listening will encourage them to talk and make you seem cooperative and calm. They always love my siblings, and if they shout at them, they apologize, but I dont have any memories of them ever apologizing to me.
In almost every situation a parent is not being intentionally mean. It's just too easy for people to point the finger at video games or movies, as the possibility that people are just inherently evil or socially incompatible is a hard truth to accept. Once you've let your parents know how you feel, hit them with your requests. Come up with solutions together to ensure this fight doesn't happen again. Darren thanks for having a site for us to Vent. Remember that people mirror behavior in a conversation -- the louder and angrier you get, the meaner your parents will get in response.
My father is the classical home-terrorist, who would yell and shout for misplacing shoes or leaving homework at the table. There are a lot of ways to interpret data from scientific experiments, especially in a field such as social psychology. If this is the case, she might want to knock you off your game while she puts up a calm and collected front. They called you but your phone was busy and you chose to ignore them. Compliment them or ask them questions about what they do. With my sister together they sang it at my face so many times.
Let them know how their behavior makes you feel. But if his parents are constantly complaining to him about you keeping him away from home, odds are they really don't like you and are looking for a reason to boot you out of their lives. Make it seem as if you are truly interested in who they are as people. I used to be closed to my father until maybe a couple of years ago. So stand up for yourself and let them know that there is an explanation. She came to drop you to school with your father and made sure to keep a check on you for every second. Numbing my own feelings really hurt my grasp on reality.
Try sharing some parts of your new life with them. Their purpose is to protect you. It's been a long as 7 month winter. This will be an ongoing process, so be sure to keep checking in with your parents. Befriend a teacher or guidance counselor. This might be a good time to ask your boyfriend what you could do differently to make a positive impact on them. Or just change the subject completely.
Can you seek counseling in school or else where in your community? They look to their parents for that magic seal of approval and when they are met with anger or upset, criticism or shaming they personalize every event to mean I must not be liked by my parents. You have your own life to live, and don't need them to do everything for you. You need to have specifics on hand in order to make real change possible. It is sometimes their subconcious or concious way of motivating you on things that matters. She made me feel like a defensive mess, and this dynamic took its toll on my relationship with her son. I hate them and i am disgusted by them… I started at a very early age critising everything in the society; all that double standarts were too much for a little child. Perhaps you feel like they are at least supporting you and all you know is your family since you spent your entire life with them.
Stay calm and , even when they are mean. Speaking from experience, I can say this situation is the pits. One conversation will not change your entire relationship. Or ask about their accomplishments so it opens a window to shine light on yours. They might not smile around you, make cold comments or talk negatively about you behind your back. You may have even given her one after the wedding. It's sad that society blames the child for what the parents failed to or refused to provide.
Lay out your side of the story in calm, rational steps -- it will be much harder for them to counter with anger if you're being reasonable. But sharing food is a sign of being comfortable with someone else. The guilt should definitely be felt by them, because why even become a parent if this is the best that you can do for someone? Everything you say, you need evidence. And there you are going through that situation. Web development sounds like a good idea, and you have made money from web design before.