I was never particularly maternal and decided I prefer living the single life without a large childlike slob of a man around whining about food and sex. This might be a change that society has to adapt to, rather than seeking to pressure men and women into tying the knot when they don't want to. That is one of the stupidest statements I've heard in a looooooong time. Last time I checked, much concern and discourse could be directed towards global wars, legal matters, governmental issues. Men are under pressure to propose to their girl friends, to buy an expensive ring, to face the woman's father to ask for her hand in marriage and if not, he still gets a stern talking to buy the father of the bride. It makes it more difficult to leave, and thereby relates to possessing.
Not that I have a real issue with people who want that. I hate it when asked why I am not married yet. But the truth is that married couples have 1,138 federal benefits in their favor, as opposed to the zero you have right now with your live-in partner. Women are stupid to keep doing this. No matter how strange it sounds, this possibility also exists. Yeah, a ton of guys are lining up that hosing. Individualism is worth more than family structure and a supportive relationship.
But I see that most people want to get marry because it brings them benefit, such as financial security, health security, and belonging. It's a lot worse when you go through all the trouble of raising a kid who then never shows up or just wants your house! Cultural tradition and expectations, the desire to possess another, and the idea of being a princess or prince for a day are at the root of most people's desire to marry. Luckily, of course, the main reason women want to get married is love. What naturally comes along with this pressure to get married is the guilt, particularly from our mothers, when we aren't yet wed. My question is why do people get married and have open marriages? I'm in a common law relationship of 5+ years. Thinking she learned from her mistakes we got married in 2005 and now we have 3 kids. The gov should be out of the marriage.
Another thing to keep in mind is the constant barrage of images we see our entire lives which place us all on the inevitable path towards marriage. Sure, you can just go to the court and sign papers, but usually your family and friends still want to make a big party out of the occasion. Parents dream of seeing their little girl walking down the aisle in a beautiful wedding gown. According to the laws of the crowd, a person must as soon as possible create a family and get a child. It's terrifying and likely to yield a broken leg if someone jumps right into it without getting the requisite skills. Millennials desperate for careers, especially in their field, are less likely to disrupt that for.
In the eyes of the society, I would have had as much say in his personal things as would our neighbour. In times, when only physical power determined everything i. Which part of this is oppressing women? She was approaching 30 and not married. Moreover, parents are a bit ashamed in front of other relatives and friends, especially if those have married daughters. Another interesting question is what will the effect of all the self-esteem training have on the Millenials when they want to get married? As a man who has both experience in dating Western women and women from more traditional cultures you will understand me. My mom tells me that one day when I was home from school and saw what she did all I day, I was horrified and told her so. But obviously there are many people who had great childhoods filled with warmth and love and the securtiy and not necessarily because they were rich that can come with being in a healthy family unit.
If you are really honest to yourself you can think of at least one logical reason that has nothing to do with her unconditional love. In the end everyone gets disappointed, because it's all fake. By that I mean that being gay breaks the society norms, and it becomes less about following outdat traditions and customs and more about two people caring for each other. The whole system is disgusting. This might not sit well in the feminist family framework, but sometimes the truth hurts. For some women, getting married is at the top of their lifegoals list.
We are a family, for sure, married or not. Maybe because most men work and then do whatever they want when not working, whereas women work, do all the kid, house, meals, laundry, homework, etc. I do have to admit I have often thought of my ideal white wedding, but until recenlty when family has started pressuring me to bring home a man and friends have semi-jokingly said that I will be a cat lady soon if I don't get dating, it hadn't really bothered me that I haven't dated. True, the chances of a birth defect double after 40, but it goes from 0. The more time goes on, the more completely comfortable I am with the idea. Around 35, I thought i was ready for kids but no man I was dating was ready for me or ready for kids. I care about living the best version of my life, and that includes having a baby when I want to have a baby, not when I've found a guy.
Again, marriage as being related to possessing another is suggested. Threre is a lot of strength in diagnosis, and I find people who have a mental illness tend to be more compassionate, empathetic, less narcissistic and less closed minded than their counterparts. I respect women that don't want to get married but at the end of the day, if I didn't want to, I'd stand up for myself, and just say marriage isn't for me. To sum everything up, the main reason why women get married is to become happy and loved! It just never really phased me. She has never lost her great sense of humor, though. When women hit thirty, I guess they just don't want to be on that side of the fence.