It sounds like you might have a good boss. At the very least, you will cause her horrific pain. This is all just a convenient way of keeping you from getting angry and laying down the hammer with consequences. And of course she has power to play — because you are deeply invested in a life with her and made small children together and a lifetime commitment. Are you saying that if she had a few drinks, she forfeited the right to be upset by an unwanted grope from a coworker? When your wife perceives herself as a free agent the forbiddeness that drives the gratification of the sexual encounters fizzles out, making the relationship null and void. There are really only so many ways to read into this.
The courts hate that shit when kids are involved. She is clearly letting what ever overriding hormonal need she has keep her from what is most important. I wouldn't believe the oh, he does this to all the other girls line. You really need to split up, move out, this is how you gain clarity. Those folks may not be who you'd expect and some of them may be able to offer a little help at a time. .
She is in a state of confusion because of her withdrawal. Get away from this horrible woman. Idiot me kept my wife around for another year before I finally woke up and filed to divorce her. Just having you around makes me smile, so I have been so miserable these past few weeks feeling that you don't care about me. We sympathize with the large investment you have in this person wife as many of us have.
So the answers would be to do nothing. I believe an unbearable amount of pain is headed your way and I feel even sorrier for the example set and modeled for the innocent children that will be damaged by what they are experiencing. You are among friendly people here who have walked through the same hell and will help. As for being uneasy after the business trip that is natural he already gives you an uneasy feeling. Decorum thank you for the great information.
At the end of that day, she told me she kissed him. My doc was incredibly helpful with that. Oh honey… 7 My wife as just as fault… Just as…? As I said in another comment to you above, someday hopefully sooner than later for your benefit , you will realize that the person you are married to is an adult-aged child. This is the other email that she sent I was thinking about what happened before you left the office Thursday and I felt really bad. Ya, im about 10 days officiall divorced now after 5 years of doing the dance, setting boundries he never respected, bla bla bla.
I know we cannot have the sexual relationship we once shared nor do I want to , but I miss her. It is very damaging to her person, and that's what makes it so predatory in my mind for a man to do this to a woman and a marriage. It will probably make you feel worse. If anyone asked why she wasn't there or where she was, I suggested they call her and ask her the question. As always this comes down to what is acceptable to you. Allow for a little bit of spacey-brain.
When I am with friends that means that I am with friends. It will take a while to internalize this advice. You have too much to loose if she decides to no longer want to be discreet. No more playing two women off each other to meet his needs. I have my head in my hands for your sake right now. Fighting, working too much, emotional distance? I immediately cut him off and closed the door. It happens to some of the best people! They are too young and this can be used against you both.
I snuck him into the office Sunday afternoon and he just conked out and made no peeps the entire afternoon. What if she wants to be more tha physical and you say No and she goes fatal attraction and reaches out to your wife? Being lied to is, in many ways, harder to stomach than the actual infidelity. At the very least move into a separate bedroom and no more intimacy with her not even a hug, nothing. We minimize our needs, our pain, our lives, our very existence. Alcohol makes it likelier that people do stupid things.