He is suspicious of everything, has worst case scenario thinking, and believes everyone is out to get him. You can help your spouse improve significantly by taking the following action. Now its upon your karma that you can or not. My clouds are getting thinner and ever less frequent as the years go on, to the extent where I feel one day they may never come back. He left almost two weeks ago and I have not physically talked to him since.
Encourage your spouse or partner to do the things they used to enjoy and to try new things that might help with their recovery. I worry that my resentment sometimes grows much more than I realize. I feel so drained, tired and hopeless. I felt my husband and son would be better without me. Surely you should be there to support them but by doing that isnt it possible to move forward with proffessionals. She is underpaid, and has to drive to work 30 minutes to and from just to sit at desk all day being unhappy.
My boyfriend also suffers from depression. Experiencing such a devastating loss at a young age significantly increases the risk of depression, anxiety disorders, and behavioral problems in the future. When I read this post I was overcome with emotion , the struggle to accept yourself the inability to look beyond the dark clouds , the nagging sensation that you are worthless and will never amount to nothing is all there. Reason why I ask this is, my husband and I spoke to his therapist and she told him that he needs to be grateful that i am there for him and all sorts. What you are feeling is natural. Dear Husband, I love you dearly, more than anything in this whole world.
They did not get married to go at life alone. With everyone else, she's normal. Or is there a chance that he will come around once he works through some of this stuff? What upsets me most is that once he feels better and is rational again he never apologises. But I am afraid to come out and say it. Thank you for taking the time to think this through, type and share. Tell them that bad things pass even if it seems impossible right now, that you'll be there for them through it all, and that he or she is very important in your life.
I was apprehensive, because why now? She then decided to be become vegan and to embrace a quiet country life, looks beautiful and has a heart of gold and so wise. I wish you all the love and strength in the world; keep talking and keep writing, you have probably helped so many people already. But her highly addictive personality will eventually get her in trouble. People with anxiety know this. The depression problems I had did not go away after I married but rather just gave me more areas in life to become depressed in. Every day she wont stop crying for hours because we cant.
Hope that helps and best of luck x Thank you very much for your compassionate advice. Right now I am trying to give him the space he asked for, taking care of myself as best as I can, and remaining hopeful. For those of you thinking about getting involved in a relationship with someone suffering from depression, I hope you read this and really think long and hard about making that kind of commitment. But then suddenly something changed, and we had one bad night at a party. God helps those, who helps themselves.
I have previously written a few posts about my own experiences with , and although I would rather keep my struggle private I simply cannot justify doing so. He hid the fact that he was unemployed for me for the first few months of our relationship and shuts down from others. I am such a good faker, most people do not see the aching pain that threatens my decisions, the anger that accompanies my failures or setbacks. I am sad because the person I love is ripping us apart. He said it makes him feel bad. And it isn't always easy to take an objective view of my wife's depression, but understanding her disease has allowed us to work through the episodes and come out of them without much marital damage.
I also learned how to better deal with him when he is in a drunk, depressed state. He is such a positive person and sometimes I worry that I drag his mood down. Thank you for sharing this post. Several years ago I learned an invaluable lesson from my father-in-law. I hope you find the strength to get through this, with or without his support. I get being supportive, having a servant heart, and all that.