He's not a kiss and tell kinda guy. No, having a higher number does not equate to great in bed. I think it is reasonable to expect similar values in the one we marry. Her sexual past took place before you met her. Because many people like talking about sex. I partly find it intriguing, sexy and yes, some of it makes me a little on edge isn't that a good thing? When she met you, she couldn't change what she'd done before. My stance on this is that men can choose a wife on any criteria they wish without any social stigma.
Remi, my dh had never even dated a girl before me, never even kissed, much less had sex, and we started dating when he was 23. I married a slut as far as I was concerned. Most of my friends married virgins like I did and so did all of our current friends. You don't make a lot of sense. I refuse to punish myself for something I did years ago and I certainly wouldn't allow my partner to punish me.
Her activities are part of her. I talk with my friends about how we used to go out and stay out late. If she can;t remember who she has had sex with, then that tells you a lot. She said that I had a right to know how messed up she was at the time of our wedding. I am a forgiving person so whatever happened in the past stays in the past. Married couples have the privilege of being the one God uses to offer love and forgiveness to each other every day for the rest of their lives.
I am not saying ignore her past, what I am saying is that there are some women who are not comfortable discussing their past for whatever reason. And it is in your power to wipe out that judgement now. I don't think that is what this is about. No, give me honor over honesty any day. Your attitude is harmful and keeps people who really need help from getting it.
Also this post is two years old, really seems like you were on a mission to find something to get pissy about and provoke other people for fun. How do you think it feels to have the one person who is supposed to be closest to you in the world treat you with anger and suspicion? Where I noticed the lie was in the change of stories. Every day we choose to forgive, God uses us to be His forgiveness to others on earth. Many men would not care to know at all. Move all Real Estate into a trust held by your parents or form an overseas shell company to hide it. He may not have wanted to marry her had he known she was promiscuous and he has the right to know. Not many wives ask girls to join you in bed every chance they get.
When we met she revealed on her own that she had only had 3 sexual partners before me. Five years after we were married she also revealed that she was bi and had a one night stand with a female friend of ours before we became a couple. My wife's told me that she's experienced things that she never experienced with any other man. On the other hand, you may be more — who she once dated or was married to in the past. Do some also get scarlet fever, absolutely.
The point, my dear Wendy, is she lied. My wife is like you a virgin when married to me. No, many partners does not mean one must be flirty. If this was such a big deal to you why did you go through with it? In real life most guys do not want any details about their wive's previous lovers. It is not that she had many partners, including comletely random hook-ups, before she was with me. I did not want to let him in, but she thought we should, so we let him in to watch.
It should not be assumed what I personally would be evaluating in knowing a womans past I was considering marrying. She's told me what's she's done, what she feels about different things. Therefore, to reconcile these two things, he should speak to a therapist, who could help him in a non-confrontational professional manner. Not thinking about it never helps. For a while I was jealous, but I got over it. So the advice they give you is to not ask her about it yet she is confident enough to tell your brother about it? I could call her a slut, which was no doubt true. Mssrwbad, I think there is nothing wrong with your argumentative style, therefore you should take a course on argumentation.