I don't even say anything anymore. You have done things that have caused her to lose respect and attraction for you over the past few months or years and she no longer feels that kind of spark with you. It doesn't matter how it is showed. I'm at a point where I don't know what my next step is. Why Your Wife Still Wants to Kiss You Even though your partner is the one avoiding you, she is also feeling the same disconnection you are. Best wishes; hope you can have this resolved soon; take care of your health and your life! And every year I stuck it out hoping and praying things would change.
Women have sex mentally and in order for some of us want to kiss you have to warm us up. At this point, I have stopped trying. So her attraction to you may be decreasing. The analogy here is that you are the male equivalent of a 300 lbs land whale. I am confused not being rude, just confused is all. Mine won't attend counseling concerning any issue or speak coherently about anything whatsoever that is not on her own personal agenda. I like to look pretty for myself and of course for him but he never notices me.
Great comment, text book Rambo indeed. . The urge for sexual intimacy that most of us have isn't there for everyone. She definitely doesn't like me to use my tongue when we kiss. You just implied that there is something not normal about your wife because she does not like to kiss you. The letter that sparked this off came from Gillian, whose husband never told her he loved her, although he sounded like a good man and did behave in a loving manner.
It's like living with a roommate. She used to enjoy it with me and with others before me, but it no longer holds any appeal for her. Another reason, maybe she's worried that she has bad breath? A male reader, , writes 2 July 2008 : Believe it or not, there are some guys who are turned off, not just because of the sex act, but because sometimes it's down and dirty. I am 44, married since I was 37. Although a woman will take on the responsibility in some cases or some of the time, she will usually just wait for you to take the lead and make her feel the that way she wants to feel.
Hold her tight and kiss her good. Leadership leads them to improve, in a marriage or a company leadership skills are crucial. Find out how you can make sure our emails get to your inbox. One guy was at work in the office, one guy was her personal trainer. I have been with this woman for over 20 years and bad habits have been established and may not be able to be undone without drastic, iron changes. I have asked him two or three times recently if he was gay and he denied it.
So this conflict of sorts goes on and it has almost driven me to seek an affair just to get satisfaction - but I just couldn't go through with it. I had the exact same problem your having. When finished, I let her go, slapped her ass, and firmly guided her out the door. You start looking at porn to get what you need and then your sex life is non-existent. I see it no differently than telling her to blow you or I like when you do that thing with your tongue.
Or do you have a different problem for me to look at? It's all become too familiar for him, and he doesn't want to go there anymore. Kind of puts it out there, she doesn't lust for you, and you're aware of it, plus you're at peace with it. Even when it got to once a month. I'm sure I am partly to blame for some of this, as my physical interest during intimate times is frequently short-lived, probably because of anxiety over the chance of pregnancy. I too have even shown it to him in the bible that it says it is a sin to withhold affections that are supposed to be between a husband and a wife. Love is something deep, something that you can work through together. If your lady no longer wants you to kiss her, there is something you can do to recreate that magical moment you once had together.
Once you start holding back the communication is when the resentments build. Have you told her she is beautiful? Why are the single people having all the good sex? This is devastating for you and leaves you full of rejection. After I confronted her and found out we have been trying to work things out for the past 6 months. Well that's all stuff you can control since you're the one asking for help. I have suggested that she talk about things to her best buddy who is a wise and kind lady. He talks about being with me forever, but I refuse to live the rest of my life without feeling like I am the only person that matters.
We had a great sex life, kissing all the time. Even if she isn't cheating which you can go ahead and do the math on yourself. I always thought that I fell for him at first sight, but I wonder now if he ever loved me in that special way. How could have i done it better? A female reader, , writes 12 January 2011 : Okay, well here is my view on this. He does take medicine for depression, but sex is horrible.
She asked for a kiss good bye i said only if you kiss me like my wife not my grandma, she did an ok kiss and i said 'better' she said 'what is a good kiss? Understand this before you enter into any kind of committed relationship with a woman. That fat guys don't get kissed! For example it's like the prostitute who won't kiss you because it is too intimate I was wondering from other people if the kiss is overrated or underrated, is it superior adult intimacy or is it adolescent intimacy that is the starting point for more intimate physical contact. Positive reinforcement expressing desire that still gets the message across. I am working on it and progress is being made. Even when I looked better, he didn't say much. It's really no different than cuddling. Poor kissing threatens to erode marital intimacy.