I know I have imperfections but I want to find someone who actually likes them. I guess the main thing for me to do is to get some courage, kill off the friend-zone and get out there. I want to thank everyone for such lovely responses, pieces of advice, and warm wishes of encouragement. It's so hard, we all know, we've all been there. But it still depresses me that no one seems to like me. I have always found that good manners are essential to meeting good people. You are still very young — but I do see how this frustrates you and you want some concrete answers.
And that took courage, too, Madina. A guy my age has done much more than kiss and lost count of how many times long ago. He was emotionally unavailable and never put the relationship as a priority for him. Hi, I came across this blog and it captured my interest. I like redecorating and reading and I can do that alone.
I have never loved like this before. However as time came they found people and we never really got to hang out as often, and my social life almost collapsed. Hi Petra, I read your post and found it quite interesting and encouraging. Including only one just like you! Thank you for reading — and glad I could help. I know I should not seek confidence in other people, but being rejected and ignored has made it nearly impossible to have a good self image. I know therefore where part of my choosing stems from. I have stopped believing in love and i probably must have committed biggest sin in my last and current birth.
I would get angry at the drop of a hat, and I struggled to understand my place in the world. And yes, it sometimes demands to be real. After talking before meeting they ask for naked pictures. Dear Anthony, your negative thinking is definitely big part of the issue. But physical traits are never the biggest issue when we have trouble finding a partner. You have to find yourself, and then determine what you want.
I must have been in a different place. Instead of searching for the ideal person to make you happy, become the person you are looking for, make yourself happy, and notice how attractive you become to everyone. I believe you would benefit from a consultation, if for nothing else to get your spirits up a bit. This article was written with a lot of people in mind — people who had relationships but have since lost hope. Dunno if you read all my whining but if so, thanks! Maybe right now I am not really stable so that can be one of the reasons why I am still alone.
Thank you for sharing your story. Maybe what you replied to the other comments is true tho. I know its stupid to think that because you know i just a teen but i cant stop thinking about it. I do consider myself to be poor; however, I strive for independence and would never dream of asking a man to take care of me. Second date a week later was dinner and movie. I have given up but given up in a constructive and positive way that is best for me. It feels artificial and far away.
What I wanted to point out with regards to myself is that I have been single for that amount of time. . Thank you for your offer, though. Please note source if reprinting this article. So, enjoying hobbies like dancing or cooking classes can serve as fun, low-pressure ways to potentially meet women. You left a comment on my blog.
Dear Paul, thank you for contributing. Visit or for more tips, skills, and insight on dating, relationships, singles, and love. Jobs, schools, places, friends, partners — all change. I have extreme abandonment issues that I have been dealing with this year that have encouraged patterns of needy behavior. Hi Jennifer, thanks for contributing. All of my friends in similar situations have been married and some more than once.
Having an educated mate is a plus. Would you show up a little more often, share a little more of your life? You know what you're looking for. Mingle more with the ones who do love you, find some good positive friends who will give you support and genuine praise, and make you feel loved. I will try and do as u say and let these feelings in but also let them go. Hi Nicole, thanks for commenting. Do you plan to go to college or a trade school? It used to annoy me sometimes when people assured me it would happen. But I feel behind when it comes to social interactions, like how to keep conversations going and to keep things from getting awkward.