Who and what she's done is no secret. If what you think you have with your girlfriend you believe to be real love, then focus on the person she is now, and not the person that she used to be. This is totally bogus and is at odds with the historical consensus that men value virginity in a woman because it assures them paternity of their children. Nobody wants to marry a girl who's shagged half the phone book. Someone who calls you a slut and tells you that he'll gladly knock you up as long as he can cheat doesn't sound like a positive influence. We don't want to know that our girlfriend has been with more guys then we can count; the thought alone is enough to makes us nauseous.
It's almost like he killed the golden goose by asking her to straighten up. My answer is a qualified yes. A man can just easily train a chaste girl to do what he wants, in fact I prefer that. I have 3 kids all are biracial. Maybe it just means he didn't find you very attractive. Asking for sources of your claims isn't me being obnoxious, it's just asking you to back up the opinion you hold, which you're saying is fact.
I have gone to Christian school, helped start a ministry, and tried being tight knit with a bible group for a while… all while praying for a wife and hoping to meet somebody special to share this life with. I want the girl to be of a good character. Sex is considered to be a pious , pure and should be done with husband. Shouldn't sexual history count for something? In other words, higher chance of her cheating in the future, higher chance of having a life style I am not comfortable with, higher chance of her carrying some kind of emotional baggage just to name a few. Still, if you've had hundreds of partners, and you grew up in the 80's, rather than the 60's or 70's, welllllll. Well, unless she slept with the entire Jets football team, then no- honestly, if she slept with anyone on the Jets, you should let her go. So often a heart of gold lies beneath a surface that needs a little polish gentlemen, neat dressing goes such a long way! Good for you, but not everyone wants to have to train someone to be good in bed.
Especially coming from the every person is different and unique and attracted to different things crowd. Unfortunately, we've begun to use sex as a tool for selling products, as a weapon, and as a cockeyed definition of love. But I have had girlfriend s before. I was married and I was completely faithful and monogamous all the time we were together. This should be the last topic about this. When you see a statistic you don't like, you find a way to try to make it the husbands fault instead.
It then becomes wrong because it's easy? Many devout Christians are marrying outside the faith because of experiences listed in the comments section here. I'm a whole package kind of guy. Still, when you are talking about hundreds -- you're perhaps talking about someone who doesn't quite see women as full, real people, but as things to fuck. You'll be surprised how quickly the numbers can add up. There are a lot of girls that want to sleep with me that I know I can get, but I don't want a large number because someday I'm going to find the women I love and I don't want to have to tell her I was a man whore. To respond to you, I agree that largely men benefit from the system. The sexually consenting adult may have had 5 partners, she may have had 35, but you'll never know.
So, everything comes down to your needs. I'm 42, so someone my age who's been around a few blocks isn't as unlikely as if I was 22. The girl who said you are too friendly seemed to be very emotional about it. The young man was hauled before the elders and harshly reprimanded. We have all done things in the past that we are either not proud of or regret entirely- you will never find someone with a completely clean slate; we all have baggage.
Now on the other hand, if a girl has been with let's say 30 guys. To me, sex is not something that I'm waiting till marriage for, but it's nonetheless something that I only do with someone who I can see myself in the longterm with. If a man wants a woman who does not sleep around, it is absolutely fine. Would not take her word for it. You can have had a lot of sex and partners in the past and have taken them seriously.
There's tons of testimonies on reddit and in real life from women who are pissed off about the lack of sex in their relationships. I'd rather be with someone who has had 8 meaningful and sexual relationships than someone who has slept around with 2 people. I think the real problem is that you're still acting this way. That's a real people person, eh? My recommendation for women who realize that they are making bad choices with men and being negative about the men they choose is to look in the mirror and acknowledge that they are the problem. And then someone else after that. To find good women you have to meet them at apologetics conferences or the like.