Nor, for that matter, can the most gratifying —even though you might be loved, or even adored, by an admiring and admirable partner. And regrettably, these experiences left them with grave doubts about their , competence, or basic human worth. And, let's be honest, that's never going to happen. Maybe the other way around, those who love themselves so much are not very capable of loving others. Christianity says you must start with loving God.
If you are a mess, you will attract a mess. The trouble is we've been spoon-fed the same piece of advice since the dawn of time: the ever-so-famous line, You have to learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else. In addition, be aware of any negative affirmations you encounter. It simply says to give love or anything else first you should have that thing with or within you. I'm a strong, self sufficient, confident woman and will never tolerate the bullshit that comes with dealing with an insecure man. Are you scared of not being liked? I've gotten a lot better at it, to be sure, but I'm a helluva lot more likely to accept things in those I love than I am to accept the same things in myself.
Even in the throes of my stubborn loneliness, I can tell you right now that I will never feel right, and I will never feel whole. And you are lovable, that way- and in every way. It would end up with a very unhealthy, lopsided relationship. Advising reliance on others for basic human necessities is bad advice when you can get that basic necessity from within yourself. Our bodies are too hairy, dimpled, stretch-marked,. That's completely idiotic and overall not helpful. This is what my Godfather did for me, tirelessly and enthusiastically, for six years! But the way I feel about her makes me want to make myself a better person, I care about her so much that I want to change myself into a person she truly deserves.
All of your friends love this new person in your life, aside from one or two skeptics. As a matter of fact, it seems a little bit like another form of looking for love from another source. Once you have achieved this mindfulness, your union with another individual will more likely flourish rather than set you back. This is where my self esteem issues root from. Choose who you want to share the journey with and remember that at no point, no matter how ecstatic or rotten you may feel, are you undeserving of love! Because when you love someone more than you love yourself, you will be the one who suffers in the end. Learn to love yourself so much that any person who comes along will have to match it. As far as I can tell, all you've managed to say is that you cannot love others if you do not love yourself because loving others if you do not love yourself is not possible.
Because you haven't understood what it means to love yourself, your expectations of love are likely to be flawed. . A healthy relationship is the product of two people who are comfortable with themselves, and with one another. I still have compassion for their suffering; it's just that I personally was brought up to be restrained, so I have difficulty dealing with those who are a little more passionate in their feelings. For me, love is the willingness to make sacrifices for someone.
In that case you increase your capacity for love — capacity to love yourself and other people. Start living without regrets, only live with learned lessons. The process of self-healing can only ever happen within. He spoke about Narcissism ,but what's the return on the person that did alot of investing on that person. I know its hard but I've been trough that too and now, that I changed a little I know that people really mean what they Tell me, eve if I don't think they are right. He says he is investing in me, and he treasures my transparency and willingness to give myself to him honestly, and to trust him.
It is completely possible to love someone dearly and hate yourself, but it still doesn't change the fact that your self-hate is the root of the problem. Wanting to make yourself happy is a sign of a strong sense of identity. Don't get me wrong, I think that's important too, it's just that since I've been with her, my self loathing has all but gone, my attitude is happier and, for the first time in my life, I don't feel worthless. No one can love you unless you love yourself first. And that shouldn't make you love them any less. I think there's only been one person I truly fell for. I was alone, hated myself, and in my extended isolation, became jaded and hated everyone else around me all while keeping it all inside.
Love is more of a decision than a reaction; you don't only care about someone including yourself because they're ideal. Maybe it's my own personal experience but as soon as I gave up on looking for love and focused on myself, having a good time doing the things I wanted to do, more options became available. And so you forgive and give, again and again. I'm miserable because I'm alone. When they work hard to get it The third option is that a person you love works hard for something that you see as your shortcoming.
It is possible to re-wire your beliefs simply by using affirmations. I agree with the whole Not worth it in my eyes but I really don't think I can love without loving myself. Dig deep within to demonstrate your worth. In other words, find happiness in slavery. Explore beyond your comfort zone, utilize your mind, chase your dreams, succeed continuously, and never give up.
The key here is repetition — you will need to repeat the same affirmations each day, in your head or out loud, until they become ingrained in your beliefs. People tend to not really be attracted to people who hate themselves. Well don't the the plants and other living creatures on earth needs nature to survive yes with out these earthly resources we will all die early and heartbroken. Creating stability and emotional support, all that stuff. Life becomes a little bit easier. If you let the pattern continue, your relationship will not have the strength to or ability to grow.