We might be on different sides of this issue but I appreciate your willingness to expose your own ideas. Its what naturally compliments you, and sometimes, for some people, that complimenting personality is typically found in a member of the same sex. So, for women and in my case personally who you are attracted to sexually can be a bit confusing. So you just have to focus on the good things. At least she told me, but i couldn't resist losing her and tried to make her fall in love with me again with no success though, kinda sad. But I choose to act on the love I have for my husband even after 3 kids and 15 years of marriage.
Yes, you do in a sense choose to love someone. Normally, it's totally pure and fine to fall in love with someone of a different 'race' or religion etc. There are times when she doesn't naturally feel like she complements me. There is love and in love and no one has quite defined the meaning of each and its all subjective anyway--although I think Ayn Rand made a good attempt to define it in Atlas Shrugged. Harvard professor of psychology, Steven Pinker, breaks down human romance using a combination of Game Theory, Economics, and Evolutionary Psychology in the lecture below.
But I do believe you are responsible for the choices in your life that affect your personality which influences who you love. I want to believe that you can choose who you love, but I don't know. Every day since I was 15 now 33. You choose a certain journey in life. In other words I don't believe who you fall in love with is like a disease that you contract, or accidentally happens to you. I loved the guy who was my best friend.
The more energy you have, the more things you can accomplish. What if the person changes, they may not pamper you as well and so on. And of course you guys will demand justification. You never got the butterfly feelings right? This is kind of what I mean by being 'loving toward' someone. And although I understand where you are coming from I still don't think it's good to be a slave to what your type is. There is some truth to that statement. Also, you may only be slightly sexually aroused by someone and, upon further times together, may develop a taste for that particular person.
I don't think you consciously choose who you fall in love with, like picking from a menu. If you don't like guys under 6 feet tall, then you will never fall for a guy under that because you won't give him that chance. There are many examples of fear appearing as love. I hope you feel more encouraged than discouraged by all it has stirred up. I have tried to no avail to love my husband instead of this man.
It's ridiculous to read a very young person's 17-maybe220 year-old's post on what love is about. You do choose who you fall in love with. I agree with what you think about love, but I disagre with how you think this disproves homosexuality. Falling in love may feel like it just happens. But if you are not in love and still agree to stay with them, you are not loving, instead you are pitying them.
Falling in love can lead to actually being in love, and being in love can lead to actual loving. Of course, anger, jealousy, resentment, stress, cravings, addictions and compulsions feel like different energies. If that connection is nurtured, I think that type of relationship is destined to be one of the best loves those people have ever had. Jon, thanks for the fresh, courageous, contrarian viewpoint. Selfishness is a core behavioral trait.
I say this because I thought I have fell in love two time, but after looking into deeply, it wasn't love, one was because I felt a lot of attention by that person, and thought it was love but just a need for attention. In fact, he may even care about you a great deal and still not be able to stop himself from acting this way. What if, rabbit has the freedom to live in the jungle with its own family. They choose to remain ignorant, but they also try to become leading authorities. How can you knowingly be with someone for whom you don't have that feeling? This is the most important question you can ask yourself because it brings you to the most important choice you can make: the choice between love an fear. You can watch the lecture in its entirety if you want, but to get to his discussion of romance, jump to 8:30 in the first video below. So, Yes and No, like some of the other answers listed above.
Has a guy ever given you mixed signals? Here's where 'real' love steps in and we actually fall for the person with whom we're more physically, emotionally and mentally compatible - as opposed to the 'romantic' imaginary, cupid-incensed concept of love we've built up through the years. Gary Zukav is the author of and you can. Since you are human, you feel the urge of your physical and emotional need. They don't want to be sleepy or tired. Animals also possess these needs. The evolution of the modern human was all thanks to increasing intelligence.