All of which raises one question: what is Zimzum? Basically, as the Bells describe it and I agree the shared space creates feedback loops. The score card is at the heart of a number of extraordinary fights. This is a simple refresher course for long-term relationships. Mending is the secret of life. There are, of course, lots of books on marriage. We get to make something in life.
You know there's an issue behind the issue when your reaction is way out of proportion to the thing you're fighting about. I don't believe in hell either, dear Rob. Apologizing is the secret of marriage. He and his wife Kristen have three children and live in Los Angeles. In a relationship you hold or create a space between you. How is it that the space between two people can be so unique that it exists nowhere else in the universe? You can act in certain ways to increase the flow.
They ripped off the train poem from Inception! There is an endless mystery to this human being you are married to, a mystery in which you never stop learning more about this person you know better than anyone else. Specifically, like God we contract ourselves to make room for our beloved. I really enjoyed the book and wanted to share two thoughts about it. We can't avoid hurting each other. Definitely not the most original or compelling marriage book out there but I think the Bells offer some helpful insights that may resonate with some couples.
And if the feedback loop intensifies it can begin to cause severe and lasting relational damage, making it that much more difficult to find your way back to each other. Let me give you an example of all this. P rinted in the United States of America. If one partner grows cold the other partner responds with coldness which exacerbates the coldness of the other. And once I got through my initial shock, I had lots of questions. Your centers of gravity expand as your lives become more and more entwined.
Easy enough, but here's the hard part. But you never stop getting to know each other. Another word for grace is gift. In order to get rid of scorecard, you have to choose to act in love instead of fear. This is not a book for deeply troubled souls. So how should we respond when the space between us becomes troubled? How is it that something so magnificent be so difficult for us to embrace. Relationships that have an energy have momentum.
. I loved the thoughts on the scorecard. This energy field is at the heart of marriage. What does it look like to help you thrive. We always end up hurting each other.
The space between two people exists no where else in the universe. Maybe it was the rush to publish, but I think it was mostly because the message can get absorbed by more if the text is short. I skimmed through and found little to none biblical foundations, poor and little amount of advice. The Bells don't give a lot of specific how-to marital tips. And I didn't want either of them extinguished.
Published by HarperOne, an imprint of HarperCollins Publishers. There are no guarantees, and there are lots of ways for it to fall apart and break your heart. That all sounds a bit like the Infinite Cosmic Inflation theory of the multiverse to me, but Rob and Kristen never mentioned it. K: I was baffled that he felt so strongly about this. Somehow, the metaphor of Zimzum and the stories Kristen and Rob share throughout the book drew us closer together. The stuff that is real and relatable and is why people are leaving church in numbers.
The written book isn't much better because it's done in a he said, she said style that accentuates how proud they are of themselves and how smart and precious and functional they think they are for having such a wonderful marriage and being such perfect examples of what they're talking about. Those with failing marriages have neglected their zimzum. I was particularly annoyed when they told me there was a great psalm about something and didn't even say which psalm it was. This brings me to my second, more practical, observation about the book. Zimzum is a Hebrew term where God, in order to have a relationship with the world, contracts, creating space for the creation to exist.
The concepts behind The Zimzum of Love open ways for us to transform and deepen how we love. After fifteen amazing years, I didn't expect any marriage book to show me any radical new truths about my wife. Of course, that's no excuse for hurting people. Everyone can be trying to do the right thing and still we end up hurting each other. On sexuality, Rob says sexuality is about a search. This book, however, is about the deeper mysteries of marriage.